first of all, all you have to do is to ask yourself.
- why you like ben soooo much.
- is he that worth you loving?
- do you like hao jie?
- compare ben and hao jie and of course, you can't be bias.
so on...
secondly, i asked you to accept hao jie not because i am helping him. crap. it is because i really could see that hao jie is trying his very best to woo you. i might not know what makes you love ben more than hao jie. ben is the one that always makes you sad and angry. does he worth you loving him?
thirdly, you can give him a chance, but you can don't 100% commit in this relationship. just give you and him a chance to start over again. you might be thinking that what if we are going to poly blah blah blah. if two people are truly in love, nothing could break them apart. yi ting and jackie are very good example. even though jackie is in poly, but i believe he still love yi ting. so don't think until so much. just give yourself a chance to forget ben. i seriously think that he is not worth you thinking or loving him.
fourthly, please don't think that no one is helping you as you think that everyone is helping hao jie. if you want us to help you is possible, but you have to let us know what you want in order we could help. hao jie told us what he wants and that's why we helped him. we are your friend who you can confine to. not some other friends who will fake in front of you and give you stupid advices. and if you really don't like hao jie, just tell him so that he could give up on you.
fifthly, please stop making hao jie like a fool. i know that this might be harsh to you but i seriously think that you are fooling hao jie. as an outsider view, i could see that you are just enjoying yourself because someone loves you. but have you make a thought? what if one day, hao jie doesn't like you anymore and you felt empty because you have been enjoying that feeling all along? you are just being unfair to him.
& if you still think that i am helping him and reprimanding you, then i have nothing to say.
i'm just stating the facts and if you still can't get what i am trying to say, then forget it.
moreover, it is YOUR life. Not mine. and whatever your choice is, we are still your friends.
th-naughty
